The Fathers' Rights Movement

3 hours ago

Anonymous:

Hey! I sent this to the Oklahoma fathers rights page but during your reboot all traffic is getting funneled to the main page.

We’re looking for a good attorney for fathers rights around Beckham/Custer county in Oklahoma.

Case is through Beckham but I know sometimes attorneys near the area can still service and are sometimes better.

Getting 60/40 now, bm doesn’t want to modify the agreement to show the changes. As it sits agreement on paper shows standard visitation. Looking for recommendations from admins and/or members of the group on how to do this. ...

The Fathers' Rights Movement

11 hours ago

Anonymous:

Note: 1. long and stressed post.

So I am on this crappy schedule of seeing my Son. It will remain in effect until October and it is because I moved. I moved for many of reasons, but most of all my mental health, and it has done me wonders. I am fighting for the best possible relationship with my still underage children in which one has been so mentally poisoned they have nothing to do with me, and the other wants to be equally in both my ex's and my life. The issue comes when he feels he must care for his mother and help her. While with me he feels he has peace of mind and knows how life is going to be and has security in that and has a path set out of what he must do and how its going to go with rules, school, bedtime, adventure, learning, family members, and most of all love.
My issue come that I am willing and wanting him to decide what he wants (13 yes old), where he wants to be, and regardless where he decides to live, that the other parent (myself or his mother) get as much shared time with him as humanly possible. His mother doesn't agree. She feels he needs to stay with her and I can have whatever she feels like is enough time. At the same time she had him on fall break then left with her boyfriend to go to Disneyland and didn't take the kids and didn't allow me to have them while she was gone that entire week. Now I just found out that she left for a week and a half to go on a tour of the country after a break up leaving the kids home alone for their first week of school, and didn't allow me to care for them while she was road tripping. To top it off she is back with the great boyfriend whom she has moved into her dad's home... again because she still doesn't have a place of her own after being handed close to $40k from the divorce. I then get accosted when I bring up her week+ long hiatus because I leave my son at home alone or with my New Wife to go to work, and have left him home alone a total of 3 times to go to church (he now goes with me when I have him). So from a parental point of view, what should I do until October, what should I do come court? I've asked for full custody with a note to the judge asking that he allows my son to choose, and that my Son's decision supercedes my action of requesting full custody to at least me. I just needed to fill out a change in the parenting plan because of the 3 hour move, but have learned to ask for the universe in court, even if one just wants the moon.

My Son has rules, fun, family, a home, and stability with My New Wife and I (who my Son adores), and over at his Mother's my Son has instability, no role model of how to conduct ones self as a growing young man, but he has love from his family there and his mother. I don't believe it to be enough though. His mother can't live with her Dad forever, this boyfriend of hers scares me that he has to mooch off of her Father to have a place to stay, my Son has a dining table in his "bed" room because the house isn't big enough, and there is no consistency in his week to week life.
Any thoughts, prayers, or ideas are greatly appreciated. ...