How many people have been sanctioned contempt’s with a dollar sign and made payments on them but did make the deadline given for it to be paid in full? What happens if not paid in full after the deadline?
Hi I have a question. My husband started getting unemployment for no fault of his own. He pays child support out of his unemployment yet the judge is giving him a hard time about getting a job. He has tried to find a job but he made very good money as a manager at a dealership and quit because of harassment and he proved harassment so he was able to get unemployment. If he is paying his child support can the judge still order him to get a job even though he’s been looking and he will have to take a job making less money because a job doing what he did is hard to find right now ?
In August, my ex spouse filed a contempt of court order against me. We have been in a heated legal battle since then. She is now on her second attorney since August and we have both spent thousands on legal fees because she refuses to provide necessary documentation to support her claim against me. Her attorney also refuses to acknowledge the fact that I haven't seen one of my three children since August, my private communication between my children has essentially been cut off and there appears to be no end in sight. I just don't understand how lawyers and judges alike can let things go on for so long when someone is clearly not following the law, and the parenting guidelines.
Just wanted to share my story for any Father's looking to give up. I was going through a divorce 8 years ago and i met a bartender that i thought was cute. Long story short, she said she could not have children and 4 months in to dating she was pregnant. I did what i could to make the best of the situation but when my daughter was 4 months old i had to leave her Mother. Of course the first reaction of the Mother was "i could see my daughter when she was older." I have already raised two children at this point and i have always been hands on with my kids so the fight was on. Like i said I am trying to shorten this up but this was my life for 5 years. My daughter was always neglected by her Mother and would go a week at a time without having a good meal or a bath. I picked her up every friday keeping her till sun. Sometimes she would come back with bleeding diaper rashes, always sick, burn marks on her face, un bathed, you name it. DCS is a joke. They were called 4 times and found it unsubstantiated every time even with all the pics, documentation, ect... i couldn't even get in to court, they kept postponing. I waited, and documented everything. It took 3 years to get an 8 hour hearing. Finally they are going to hear my story! 6 folders in hand, hundreds of pictures, false restraining orders, fake statements against me, Arson, battery, neglect of a child, child molestation, vandalism, abuse, there was nothing that wasn't thrown at me. Get in front of the judge and he doesn't want to hear 8 hours of "he said, she said testimony." I had 4 people there that took the day off to be there for my daughter to testify. Her teachers, my Mom, friends that have witnessed all of this. What do you mean you don't want to listen to it? I was fuming. He said i will listen to 1 hour of testimony then i am sending you to a mediation. Well an hour isn't going to expose what i need to expose. Mom's neglect, drug use, all the false accusations to force me out of my daughters life. All the horrible pictures i had taken of my daughter....no one even looked at them. I was so deflated. Ok, Let's go to mediation! Maybe the mediator will see all of this and get back to the judge. Nope, while she did get me more time with my daughter (from 8 days a month to 15 days a month) she did not even look at any of the documentation of neglect, or abuse. How have all of these child advocates failed my child? My daughter missed 19 days of kindergarten and had 17 tardies that year. Mom lived a mile from the school. She is going into first grade, now we have her during school days, we get to see her homework, she is doing so much better now. She goes to school pretty, hair done, nice clothes, fed, well atleast when we had her. The teachers noticed that now she was living two different lives. We were actually enabling Mom, because her attendance improved, her homework was getting better, she was well kept. We thought it would help us when we finally were able to get back to court. Anyway the last three months my daughter would tell us every time we had her that she was on her own at Moms house. She had to find her own food, she would wet her hair and brush it so the kids at school would think she had bathed, she got herself off to school, and said the only time she saw her Mom is when she came out of her bedroom to use the bathroom. Often she would go 3 days with no human contact. She is 6 years old. I wanted to give up, i did not know what else i could do. Oh and in the meantime i pick up my daughter from her Mom's house and pot smoke came rolling out the door. I don't make a huge scene, but i get my daughter and go around the corner and call the police. Police come, of course no one at the house would answer the door, same reaction when DCS would show up. They did nothing. I took my daughter to my house and i remember that i had bought an at home drug test kit because we thought Mom was giving our daughter ritalin. I tested her urine and had a positive test for THC. I call DCS again. Again nothing. They opened an investigation. In the meantime i am running in to people that know my ex and they are asking me what she is on? (Drugs) even my daughter's teacher. How embarrassing, and scary. So the teachers ask to talk to DCS, i am thinking this is it, they are finally going to do something. I talked to DCS and i asked them "what is it going to take? My daughter finding her Mom dead? Or my daughter getting killed in a car accident with her Mom? " She often drove wasted with my daughter in the car. Then 3 weeks later DCS is going to talk to the teachers on Friday. Since we went to the 5 2 5 visitation schedule i did not have my daughter Friday. My daughter has swim every Saturday morning. So all day Friday i am trying to contact her Mom to see if she will bring her to swim or she will not promote. No response, which is normal. She never communicated with me. Over the past year i had been drinking pretty heavy. I guess it would numb my mind so i could sleep at night. I had recently quit and today was my 90th day sober. Nov.17th 2018. Friday night sitting at home with my fiancee worrying about my daughter. Where she is, if she is hungry, is there someone for her to talk to? Then i get a call from an old friend that happens to be the neighbor to my ex. He says an ambulance just left my daughter's house and he asked if i had her, i said no. He said well i don't know who left in the ambulance, but i did not see your daughter at all. I am a nervous wreck and i call the son of my ex who lives there but is hiding from DCS so he doesn't have to take a drug test. He says he moved out and doesn't know what is going on. I knew this was a lie, so i called the ambulance dispatch and asked who called? They said he did. I jump in my car and head straight to her house calling the police on my way to let them know of my intentions. I am going to get my daughter untill we figure out what is going on. I get there and no one will answer the door. Cops are pounding on the door and the window is open. I hear the Son who is 19 telling my daughter to be quiet. Finally the Mother of my ex who lives upstairs opened the front door. The cop called my name and i ran over to the door. There is my daughter. I could tell she had been crying for some time and she was dirty, smelled of urine, covered in tears and snot, she looked so defeated. The cop didn't even ask any questions. He looked at me, looked at my daughter and said get her out of here! I went to my Moms house and kind of waited to see what was going on. At this point all i know is my ex went to the hospital for a low blood sugar. She was diabetic and often used this to her advantage to cover up the pill popping, always blamed a low sugar, or high sugar. So we put everything together and this is what happened...my daughter woke up that Friday and got herself off to school. She rode the bus home and went in her house. She yelled downstairs for her Mom but there was no answer. This was the "Norm" so she just turned on the tv and found some junk food to eat. At 9pm my daughter remembered it was Friday and she had swim Saturday morning. She went down to her Moms bedroom and found her laying on the floor. My daughter told us later that she did not try to wake her because she was scared. She ran upstairs and told her brother who said "she probably just passed out again." My daughter kept asking for him to check. After an hour or so he goes down stairs and there she is on the floor. They call 911 and get an ambulance in route. My ex took a bunch of zanax and slept through a low sugar, and went in to a diabetic coma. My daughter found her dead. Our worst fears had happened. Come to find out DCS went to the school that Friday and talked to the teachers at noon after weeks of me badgering them. It did no good. When DCS talked the the teachers my ex was already brain dead. This was horrible. The hardest thing i have ever had to do is tell my daughter that her Mom went to heaven. We have my daughter now, she has a loving step mom that has been in her life since her first birthday, and she has coped very well. She is doing great in school and is such a happy little girl. I just wanted to tell my story. For any Father's that maybe ready to give up....God works in mysterious ways, don't give up, your child needs you! I don't know if he was waiting for me to get my stuff straight, but on my 90th day of not drinking i got my daughter for good. Not under the circumstances we wanted , but she is safe now, she is fed, she is bathed, she doesn't miss school, she is always taken care of, we don't have to worry anymore. Father's do have rights, but it is an uphill battle that you are unlikely to win. 6 years i fought, and if it wasn't for my fiancee i would have given up. Don't ever give up on your children. God is watching, and so are they. Thank you for letting me share the last 6 years of my life.